I have not posted anything on this site in a very long time.
I have several articles which I started writing and didn't end up posting. Or even just titles written down in the hopes that they would jog my memory on the idea that I had at the time.
Like this one for example. "Busy is the word of the devil!"
What on earth was I thinking when I decided that it was a good title for an article. Well, lucky for me I still have a clue.
Back in 2014 I had started listening to some good podcasts which I like to think of as something that is beginning to cause some change in my perspective of things and make me a better person and eventually one day, a better practitioner.
One of these said podcasts would be The Time Ferriss Experiment.
For those of you unfamiliar with Tim, he is the author of best seller self improvement books like "The Four Hour Work Week" and "The Four Hour Chef".. he's somewhat worked himself into a type cast here, but Tim offers great advice and information in not only his books but podcast also.
One episode he and his guest were discussing procrastination and the idea that people convince themselves into a sense of wellbeing by when asked how they have been, or how they "are doing", so many people are guilty of replying, "oh, I've been really busy" or "keeping busy". The idea that being busy equates to being successful and on the right path towards their goals.
This struck a chord with me.
I was made aware, called out even, by two men on a recording from the other side of the world.
I wasn't busy... I was just filling my time with stuff and justifying it as being busy.
Contemplating this, and it by chance being around about new years, I decided that this phrase and any rough derivatives of the same ilk would be taken from my vernacular and avoided as much as possible.
And so I was no longer busy.
If you've spoken to me over the last year and a half or so, you probably would not have noticed but when I'm asked how I am, or how I've been, or what I've been up to etc. Generally I'll give you a proper answer, explaining what I have recently been doing with my time... not just.. busy.
The most interesting thing I find about this is mind set.
I believe that by not constantly telling myself that I'm busy, I now have a better perspective of what my actual work load is and when I'm being constructive with my time or procrastinating away.
This experience has led me to want to change other habits and phrases that I use frequently, things like, "You know what annoys me..." the rhetorical question that I seem to phrase all too often before a beautiful long rant. I'm curious if removing something like this might reduce my angst. Possibly even replace it with, "My favourite thing about..." putting a positive twist on the world seems like a nice sentiment.
For such a simple thing, I really recommend you to try something like this and see how it impacts you.
One thing that I say to customers that come into work quite often for example is,
"Rather than saying, 'I want to loose weight' you need to be saying, 'I am loosing weight' this changes your perspective from something far off in the distance to something attainable and within reach."
I'm sure I'm quoting that from someone else, because to be honest, I feel like this is a very smart way of thinking and changing focus to make the task much more achievable.
Give it a shot. I'm sure you'll be surprised by what happens.
Anyway, I think that's enough procrastination. Back to study for me.